When you’re too nice, people will automatically expect more from. If you’re tired of being taken for granted, you need to put your foot down and learn to say ‘No’. Here are 10 reasons you need to stop being too nice right now:
1. People will stop taking advantage of you
When you learn to put yourself first, it will not be difficult for you to say ‘no’ to people who take advantage of you.
You will be able to let go of toxic people who use you for their own benefits.
“YOU EITHER WALK INSIDE YOUR STORY AND OWN IT, OR YOU STAND OUTSIDE YOUR STORY AND HUSTLE FOR YOUR WORTHINESS.” –BRENÉ BROWN
2. You will not bite off more than you can chew
Your priorities will change. You will slow down and stop overworking yourself.
You will set boundaries and ensure you have a healthy work-life balance.
“GOOD THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU SET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT.” –SCOTT CAAN
3. You will be taken more seriously
People will start respecting you because you’re not afraid to share your thoughts or call them out when they mistreat you.
You will no longer agree to everything or apologies all the time.
“EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE IS A REFLECTION OF A CHOICE YOU HAVE MADE. IF YOU WANT A DIFFERENT RESULT, MAKE A DIFFERENT CHOICE.”
4. You will put your needs first
You will not put other people’s needs before your own.
You will not let anyone come between you and your values or entertain people who refuse to give you what you need.
“SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BE SELFISH, IF YOU CAN’T PUT YOURSELF FIRST, YOU CAN’T EXPECT ANYONE ELSE TO.”
5. You will finally have a life
When you’re not too busy making others happy or doing things for people, you will finally be able to relax and enjoy life.
You will have more time for yourself and your loved ones.
“IF YOU WANT SOMETHING YOU’VE NEVER HAD, THEN YOU’VE GOT TO DO SOMETHING YOU’VE NEVER DONE.”
6. You will get to pursue your own dreams
You won’t care about what people think or seek validation before pursuing something.
You will trust your own decisions and make your own goals.
“BUILD YOUR OWN DREAMS OR SOMEONE ELSE WILL HIRE YOU TO BUILD THEIRS.”
7. You will become a happier person
Once you learn to let go of people who don’t deserve your attention and kindness, you will feel whole and more at peace with yourself.
“YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT PEOPLE COME AND GO. THAT’S LIFE. STOP HOLDING ON TO THOSE WHO HAVE LET GO OF YOU LONG AGO.”
8. You will be more confident
When you start cutting off people or situations that are bad for you, you will feel empowered.
Your self-confidence will increase and you will not depend on others to feel needed.
“BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOU WILL BE UNSTOPPABLE.”
9. You will not settle for less
You will ensure you get the best because you truly believe you deserve it.
You will no longer let yourself be taken for granted and you will value yourself more.
“DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS THAN EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT. YOUR HEART’S DESIRES ARE THERE FOR A REASON. CHASE THEM. PURSUE THEM RELENTLESSLY. DO NOT LOSE SIGHT OF YOUR GOALS. THEY ARE YOUR VERY REASON FOR BEING.” –FRANKI DURBIN
10. You will stop being too hard on yourself
You will stop comparing yourself to others or telling yourself that you’re not good enough.
You’ll realize that you don’t need to be like everyone else and it’s okay to live at your own pace.